Choosing a career for your child
When a child reaches class 9th, there is a sudden change in the manner in which his approach towards life gets modified. Parents start visualising in him an Engineer or a Doctor or a Pilot or anything whatever the parents can think of. Many teachers in school/coaching centres also start segmenting children as 100 marker, 95 marker or 70 marker. The classification by parents or anywhere else though not a candid expression, but starts reflecting in their behaviour. The child by now has gained the capability to pick up subtle intonations of behavioural change of the surrounding social structure. Well, the child is also about 14 - 15 years now and has developed some capability to interpret the world around him and this includes his cousins and friends, some of them may actually be the ones he is trying to emulate. So, at this age, the child is at the centre of a big chunk of ideas where he needs guidance. Demanding expectations from others at times may put undue pressure on the child who may get confused between his thoughts, expectations of others.
There is a need of experts who can talk to the child, gauge what are the strengths and interests of the child and what career streams are more suitable for him. There is a need for him to explore, understand and see what best can be the career stream for his long term success in life. There is a case of a child whose father wanted him to be a Computer Engineer and mother wanted him to be a Doctor. Everyday during dinner, the discussions would end up by comparing Engineering v/s Medicine. Nobody asked the child what did he want to do. In the ensuing discussion, it was decided that as there are a large number of Engineering seats than MBBS, so the child should go for Engineering, as chances of success are higher. So, when the child was in class 10th, a sum of INR 1.5 Lakhs was paid to a leading coaching institute as the first year installment of the 3 year IIT test prep programme and the child was made to join the test prep. The child did his best, but then he couldn't sustain the rigour and stopped going to the coaching centre. After class 12th, he applied for a leading design institute and prepared at home only. He qualified the exam and now he is pursuing a degree at one of the best FASHION DESIGN institutes in country. The journey from class 10th to his admission was very uncomfortable and fraught with many instances of rebuking in the house.
There is a need to understand the natural potential, interest and aptitude of a child. This would keep everyone focussed, motivated and will also save sizeable proportion of money which could be invested for child's future rather than to pay to a coaching company, and make child run for of the mill stuff.
There is a need of experts who can talk to the child, gauge what are the strengths and interests of the child and what career streams are more suitable for him. There is a need for him to explore, understand and see what best can be the career stream for his long term success in life. There is a case of a child whose father wanted him to be a Computer Engineer and mother wanted him to be a Doctor. Everyday during dinner, the discussions would end up by comparing Engineering v/s Medicine. Nobody asked the child what did he want to do. In the ensuing discussion, it was decided that as there are a large number of Engineering seats than MBBS, so the child should go for Engineering, as chances of success are higher. So, when the child was in class 10th, a sum of INR 1.5 Lakhs was paid to a leading coaching institute as the first year installment of the 3 year IIT test prep programme and the child was made to join the test prep. The child did his best, but then he couldn't sustain the rigour and stopped going to the coaching centre. After class 12th, he applied for a leading design institute and prepared at home only. He qualified the exam and now he is pursuing a degree at one of the best FASHION DESIGN institutes in country. The journey from class 10th to his admission was very uncomfortable and fraught with many instances of rebuking in the house.
There is a need to understand the natural potential, interest and aptitude of a child. This would keep everyone focussed, motivated and will also save sizeable proportion of money which could be invested for child's future rather than to pay to a coaching company, and make child run for of the mill stuff.
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